Updated: Jan 24
Who hates feeling run down? Washed out? Like your life is all over the place? Do you feel like you have no energy, and maybe no motivation to get up and do anything? Honestly, we all feel like this at some point in time and sometimes even alllll the time. It's because we aren't putting ourselves first. Let me tell you something...
It's OKAY to put yourself first.
I had a hard time prioritizing myself when everyone else needed me all the time, my friends, family, fiance, clients, work, etc.. and I felt like the entire world was on top of my shoulders. But guess what. There are so many ways to take that weight off your shoulders and to truly take care of YOUR well being, while also being a mom. A student. A business owner. A wife. A daughter. A friend. A full time employee.
I want to tell you my 5 self care tips that I do every month, that will literally make you feel like you are on top of the world, just by doing these small things.
1. Get enough sleep + allow your body to wind down before you go to sleep.
I know, some of us stay up late doing school work, or responding to clients emails, or getting laundry done. I've been there, done that. If you don't give your body the most important thing it needs (Rest), then how on earth are you going to wake up and feel any different or less tired tomorrow? How do you expect to conquer the world when you can't even keep your eyes open past 10 am! Create a schedule for your body and keep it up for at least 21 days. Your body will LOVE you, feel so rested and you will be a whole new person. My schedule that I try to go by is going to sleep in the hour of 9-10pm and wake up around 5:30-6:30 am. The reason for this I literally feel like I'm on top of the world when I get that amazing quiet time in the morning before a crazy day starts. It's like you are ready for anything. Stats say the most successful people in life are the ones who wake up before the rest of the world, and more specifically the ones who wake up in the 4 am hour. While everyone else is sleeping, you're up grinding. Think about that.
2. Spend 1 day without your phone. Yep, you heard me.
Put the thing down. Matter of fact, turn it off, and put it in a drawer somewhere and forget about it. We spend our days consuming ourselves with social media and the world around us, and basically just what other people think is embedded in our brains 24/7. Don't worry about others, don't worry about what anyone thinks. Don't worry about what the world is doing... and give yourself time to breathe in your own body, your own life, your own thoughts, your own creativity. I went to NYC in December and every single place I went to, 99.5% of people were on their phones. They never looked up to check their surroundings. They never looked up to talk to the people they were with. They never took in the marvelous season that was taking place and truly enjoyed it. What the heck!!?? How do you ever expect to be fulfilled in life, have amazing experiences, get to know the most amazing people, and invest in YOURSELF if all you do is stare at your dang phone all day!!
The average American spends 6 hours a day on their phone.
Are. you. freaking. kidding. me.
Do you know what you can accomplish in 6 hours? A workout, Quiet time, Creating Business Ideas, Getting work done, cleaning your house, AND more all in 6 hours. Take care of YOUR MIND and better yet... TAKE CARE OF YOUR TIME. IT'S PRECIOUS AND VALUABLE.
3. Say "No" to people more often.
If you're like me, it's really hard saying no to people. No to your friends, no to your boss, no to potential clients, no to your family. No to anyone who counts on you to be there. Let me tell you something...
The more times you say yes to others, the more times you are telling yourself no.
It is okay to take a sick day if you truly feel like you can't get out of bed and be successful today. It's okay to rest when you know you need it. It's okay to say no to a potential client when you have booked 99% of your weekends and just need 1 weekend to relax and spend time with the people in your house. You don't need the money that bad, you are just overworking yourself and harming your body, your mindset and emotional stability even more. It's okay to tell your friends you can't meet with them because you need an afternoon to go home and take a bath and have quiet time.
Say yes to yourself and your health overall. Those people who you say no to..will understand I PROMISE. If they don't, then they do not care about your health or you in general. So why do you spend all your time caring about satisfying their needs?
4. Plan out your priorities.
Being a planner is probably one of my favorite things I have adapted to when I started college and working full time. In the beginning, I felt so overwhelmed with school work, working and just not having time to get anything done, but I quickly learned it was because I wasn't devoting specific times to each task in order to get them done. I started using a planner and really writing down everything from phone calls, to meetings, to doctors appointments, to photo sessions, to friend date nights, to fiance date nights, to even when I will edit a gallery, etc. My life feels so much more organized doing so. I know that one day of the week is dedicated towards editing galleries, while the next day might be dedicated to writing blog posts, while the next day might be dedicated to phone calls. Obviously I work as well and have another job, and school, so I create a time frame each day to get these things done. I even write down what times I want to work out because it holds me accountable to do it. My life is extremely organized and it takes away all of the unnecessary stress of last minute rushed priorities you have to handle. Every Sunday, I challenge you to sit down and prepare for your week. Plan out what you need to do, what needs to get done, meal prep ideas, and a workout schedule if you're into that. Watch how amazing it feels to accomplish everything you prepared for!!
Last but not least... my 5th longest and BIGGEST tip.
5. Nourish your mind, body, and soul.
Take care of yourself. What do I mean by that? I'm not just talking like a doctor and going to say workout, eat healthy, drink tons of water.... yes to all of that. You have to do that to feel your best, but the biggest thing I want to mention is to truly take care of YOURSELF the only ways YOU can do, not anyone else.
Mentally- Talk positively to yourself. Look in the mirror and put sticky notes with confident reminders to make you feel like a bad a$$ every morning, speak them into your soul. Invest your time in helping your mind grow with positive books, podcasts that push you forward, and converse with people who believe in you and are on your team. Don't waste your time looking in the mirror and telling yourself how much you hate your stretch marks, or how much whiter someone else's teeth are. Can you imagine how God feels, when you stand there calling his wonderfully, fearlessly and beautifully- made creation ugly, fat, not good enough? You are so worthy of putting positive talk in yourself, and allowing others to do so too. Do what makes you feel confident. Wear all that makeup, put on that cute outfit, go take some selfies, and do what you do to feel great.
Spiritually- Invest time in the relationship that matters the most. Your relationship with your creator. Who better to find worth, love, happiness, joy, grace, patience in then the man who is all of those things himself? No human is ever going to satisfy your needs and wants in this world the way you want them too. We are all human people! Look above to the one who created you and me, and who knows the ins and outs of our hearts and what we desire.
Physically- It is proven that exercise can make a person happier. It elevates your mood levels and the Serotonin in your body to be released throughout. If you are feeling in a rut, defeated, anxious, or depressed... go on a walk. Go step outside on a sunny day and walk around for 30 minutes. Go to the gym in your neighborhood. Go walk your dog even for 10 minutes. Then, acknowledge your emotions and feelings afterwards. They most likely were elevated. If you need help, just ask a friend to get you outside, or an accountability partner who will keep you active constantly. You got this.
Emotionally- Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Don't ever feel shame or guilt for your feelings. Don't ever hide them, or feel worried about talking about them. They will never go away if you suppress them inside. Feel, Endure Peacefully, Heal, and Let Go. Your feelings matter, what you have to say matters, what you believe matters, but don't ever let it consume you in the worst ways. Don't use it to take advantage, or to play a victim. Be powerful and heal. If that means going to see a therapists do it, if that means practicing talking about your feelings with someone you trust... do it. If that means writing everything down, DO IT. Hoping healing comes your way this year. You can do this love!
I hope you enjoyed these tips, and put them into practice this next month and KICK SOME BOOTY being prepared